Friday, April 10, 2009

Andrew's Two Month Letter

On April 7, 2002 Andrew was baptized at Grace Community Church in Los Angeles, declaring to all that he had turned from a life of sin and living for himself and instead had surrendered his life to Jesus, the One and only true God, Maker of heaven and earth.

April 7, 2009 marks two months after Andrew went to see His Savior face to face.

This is Andrew's last letter until the one year anniversary of his death.

2 months

Dear Grace,

His mercies are new every morning. Satisfy yourself in God’s great love for you through the gospel. You are accepted as a beloved child, and there is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. I’m sure life is still a little crazy, but if you are in despair just remember that this too will pass. You’ll get through each day one at a time. Keep a steady mindset, and put one foot in front of the other.

Remember to stay on top of training the children. Most importantly they need love, but sometimes love comes in the form of loving correction. Gracie most of all needs to know who is in authority. Now that I am no longer around, the children really need to see you take my place as the ultimate human authority in the household. You need to be intentional about having them submit to your authority, and ultimately God’s authority.

With regards to balancing everything that is on your plate you will need to really step back and trust God...You are not in the same situation as other women may be in where their entire job is devoted to caring for their children and husband's needs. You have now taken on a huge job of leading the family. You don’t know what that entails yet, but it is a lot of work... So we need to do things that will get the most bang for the buck in terms of time, money, effort and flexibility.

Firstly, you’ll need to pray and trust God that He will keep your bodies healthy and free of disease. However, He may afflict you or our kids anyways just as He did to Job...If you are reading this then we know that God has chosen to take me home at His appointed time, and we know that God is in control of your life as well....

AJ will continue to need male examples in his life, but I think hanging out with Noah and Billy [A.J.'s cousins] and being around people at church will suffice for now. As he grows older he should be proactive about spending time with the men in the youth ministry helping them out on a weekend or assisting in ministry activities. Gracie has lots to learn from you right in the home.

I love you will all my heart. Be strong and courageous.

-Your Love


  1. What an amazing letter. It's full of encouragement and biblical truths. He really loved his family!

  2. I Praise the Lord that my cousin had such a passionate, loving husband who trusted God and keeps leading her through his death. I'm so thankful for your marriage Grace, and what it has done to glorify God!

  3. I'm so thankful that Andrew is still helping you with all the foresight the Holy Spirit gave him. I will pray along the same lines as his letter. May you be able to be the leader of your home and train your children to honor and respect you and our Lord Jesus Christ. Have a glorious Resurrection Day. We have been and will continue to lift you up in prayer.

  4. dear Grace:
    Happy Easter. I pray that you are having a Spring awakening as we do, here in NJ.

    Thank you so much for sharing Andrew's letter with us.
    We pray that our Lord will continue to hold you up and your family.
    Abundant blessings!!
    gloria and family fr. NJ